Identifying unfair attitudes of husbands, Huzoore Anwer (may Allah be his Helper) said in a Friday sermon:
“Sometimes such complaints are received where a man is sitting at home reading the paper and calls his wife to get him a glass of water or juice from the fridge, although the fridge is nearby and he can get the drink himself. If the poor wife is delayed due to any work she may be busy with or some other reason, the man starts shouting at her. On the one hand is the claim of love for the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be on him) and on the other hand, our practice is such that we do not even show the slightest courtesy. There are many other examples where when questioned, the answer is that the Qur’an allows them to chastise the wife. Let it be clear that the Qur’an gives no such permission. Therefore do not disgrace the Qur’an for your own personal interests.
“The testimony of Hazrat ‘Aishah Siddiqa (may Allah be pleased with her) is, ‘The Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be on him) was the gentlest of all people and the most bounteous. He lived like ordinary men at home; he never frowned and was always smiling.’ She also said, ‘In all his life the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be on him) never raised his hand upon his wife and did not ever hit a servant.’ He never reproached a servant. (Shamai’lu Tirmizi, Babu ma jaa’a fi khulqe Rasoulellahe sallallahu alaihe wa sallam)”
(Friday sermon delivered on 2 July 2004 at International Centre, Mississauga, Canada. Published in Al Fazl International 16 July 2004)