Complete Faithfulness to Husband and Motivation to Engage in Istighfar

Addressing Ahmadi ladies at Jalsa Salana Germany 2003 Huzoore Anwer (may Allah be his Helper) said:

“Some women have a tendency to create huge fuss when times get hard, for instance if the husband loses his job or there is loss in business and prosperity is diminished. They moan about the situation, quarrel and fight with the husband, tell him off, make demands of him. Such actions do not result well. If the husband is even a little bit weak, he promptly takes a loan to somehow cater for the wife’s desires. Debt is such a quagmire that one simply goes on sinking in it. When bad times are faced a wife should become the helper of her husband with complete sincerity and should try and get by as best as possible.”

Huzoore Anwer added: “Women who create fuss over small matters should keep this in mind and do (Istighfar–seek forgiveness from Allah). Hazrat ibn e Abbas narrates that the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be on him) said: ‘Fire was shown to me and I observed that majority of those entering it were women. The reason for this is that they perpetrate unbelief. It was asked, ‘do they disbelieve in Allah?’ The Prophet replied, ‘no. They are ungrateful. If you have been good and benevolent towards any one of them all your life and then she sees something in you which is not of her liking, she will say, ‘I have never received any good from you.’ (Sahih Bukhari, Kitabul Eman, Babu Kufranel Asheer wa kufren doona Kufren fihe)”