Addressing Lajna Ima’illah Germany at their annual Ijtema on 17 September 2011 Hazrat Khalifatul Masih V (may Allah be his Helper) said:
“Then there is the habit of gratefulness. Allah the Exalted says you should be grateful to Allah the Exalted and He will provide for you and will continue to increase your blessings. Thus, you should also be grateful to Him about your domestic life. Be mindful of the income of your husband and spend within its means when running your home and be grateful to God. Especially certain problems of some newly married women are brought to me. Regardless of what the truth is, the young man lays the blame on the young woman and vice versa. The man alleges that the woman demands too much and this is proven to be correct at times. Wives complain that the husband does not meet their demands, does not cater for their monthly or weekly trip to the beauty parlour. It is not the objective of an Ahmadi woman or girl to visit beauty parlours. If the husband cannot afford it, how can he manage? Relationships are only sustained when you try and get by within your means.
“Allah the Exalted says that if you are grateful, I will give you more. When a newly married couple start their life, they do not have much. Later, Allah the Exalted blesses and gradually as life goes on and they gain experience and the husband’s income increases and more resources are created. I say this to young women in particular that if they instil the habit of patience, resolve and gratefulness, InshaAllah their relationships will endure and they will continue to be recipients of the blessings of Allah the Exalted. And they will be included among those who are looked upon with love by Allah the Exalted and they will also be fulfilling their pledge!”
(Address delivered on 17 September 2011 at the Lajna Ijtema Germany. Published in Al Fazl International 16 November 2012)
At another occasion Huzoore Anwer presented the following extract of the Promised Messiah (on whom be peace) in this regard and explained it:
“Do not demand of your husbands that which is beyond their means. Try, so that you may enter your graves innocent and chaste. Do not be lazy about God’s obligations like Salat, Zakat etc.
“Salat is also an obligation on everyone and should be observed. As I also mentioned earlier, if children see Salat offered regularly at home, their attention will be also drawn towards offering it. Then there is Zakat. Every woman has jewellery which should be evaluated and effort should be made to pay Zakat according to the prescribed rate.
“The Promised Messiah (on whom be peace) then said: ‘Be compliant to your husbands with your heart and soul.’ Be obedient to them. ‘A large part of their honour is in your hand.’ That is, a large part of the honour of your husbands is in your hand. ‘Thus discharge this responsibility of yours so well that you may be counted by God among the pious women and the obedient women’ (Kishti Nuh, Ruhani Khaza’in, Vol. 19, pp. 80-81).”
(Address delivered to ladies on 3 June 2004 at Jalsa Salana Holland. Published in Al Fazl International 22 July 2005)