A big reason for lack of trust between husband and wife is when one of the two or both are embroiled in the habit of lying. Drawing attention to this Huzoore Anwer (may Allah be his Helper) said:
“Many disagreements between husband and wife stem from lack of confidence in each other. Wives complain that husbands do not tell the truth and husbands also complain that wives do not tell the truth habitually! In most of the cases they blame each other that the other had not been honest or is routinely dishonest. This affects the children and they too start telling lies.”
Huzoore Anwer added: “It is also instructed that if you always speak the truth and try to continue to fulfil your responsibilities, in light of your efforts God Almighty will continue to reform you and will enable you to follow virtues. God will overlook your sins and your mistakes and make your home resemblance of paradise.”
Huzoore Anwer also said: “It is also mentioned that they should stay firm on speaking the truth because this is the only way to establish mutual confidence and this alone helps in honouring mutual relationship. Speaking the truth alone also enables the proper upbringing of children so that they become productive members of society.”
(Address delivered to ladies on 21 August 2004 at Jalsa Salana Germany. Published in Al Fazl International 1 May 2015)
On 7 October 2011 Hazrat Khalifatul Masih V (may Allah be his Helper) announced four nikahs after Maghrib and Isha Salat at Masjid Baitul Rasheed, Hamburg, Germany. After reciting the official nikah sermon and Quranic verses, Huzoore Anwer (may Allah be his Helper) said:
“These verses draw attention to be towards righteousness whilst being mindful of speaking such truth that does not have even the slightest ambiguity. It is truth alone that creates an air of mutual confidence between the young husband and his wife and it is this confidence alone that goes on to guarantee love and peace. Newly formed relationships should be mindful of this.
“May Allah make it so that these newly-formed relationships are mindful of these matters and may there never be any kind of slant, falsehood or half-truths among them and may they always maintain an air of confidence amongst them.”
(Published in weekly Al Fazl International, 30 December 2011)