Huzoore Anwer (may Allah be his Helper) advised members of the Jama’at in light of moral weaknesses of some families and said:
“There are also men whom I address [here], those who lack honour and who demand from their wives to hand over jewellery they brought in their dowry to run business or any cash they may have to start a business venture. If there is love and affection between husband and wife, with mutual understanding, women do give [whatever is asked]. However, if a woman knows that her husband is useless and does not have business acumen and feels that she will lose whatever possession and money she has in a short period and the family situation will go back to poverty, so she does not give and this worsens the conflicts. At times, this lack of honour [on part of the husband] exceeds and having once being dishonourable, the husband demands the wife that her father is well-off and rich, so she should get such and such money from him so that the husband can run his business. The man’s family, his brothers and sisters etc. also get involved in this and incite him to demand money as if it is the girl’s responsibility to pay for all the in-laws. People who commit such terrible actions are always those who do not turn to Allah the Exalted; neither do they put their trust in Him nor do they practice His commandments and teachings. Those who do not pay the rightful dues of worship of Allah the Exalted can never inculcate trust in Allah within themselves. As mentioned earlier, when such circumstances arise in marital matters it is again women who are made to suffer. If the husband’s demand is not fulfilled the wife is thrown out of the home and that is a very painful situation and situations such as the ones I am mentioning do come to pass. May Allah the Exalted have mercy and enable such families to use more sense and thought, and may every Ahmadi family demonstrate a model of love and affection.”
(Friday sermon delivered on 15 August 2003 at Fazl Mosque, London. Published in Al Fazl International 10 October 2003)
Huzoore Anwer (may Allah be his Helper) said at another occasion:
“I have to say regretfully that it is very painful to hear of certain situations and at times it causes anxiety as to where some of us are heading! People forget all the sacrifices made by the wife, so much so that some stoop so low that they take money from the wife; they pressurise her to take money from her parents for business purposes or forcibly include their name on the deeds of a house bought with her money and constantly threaten her. It is astonishing when at times young men from good, decent families do this. These people should fear God and reform themselves. Or else, let it be clear that if the matters come before the Nizam e Jama’at, it neither supports such vulgar people, nor will it [in the future]!”
Huzoore Anwer added: “Men who eye their wives’ property should take heed from this that it is their responsibility to provide and they have no right over the property of their wives. They are indeed responsible to meet the full expenses of wives and children. No matter what the situation is, even if they have to take on manual work, it is their obligation to meet the expenses of the household. If prayer is made along with hard work, Allah the Exalted blesses and grants increase [in income].”
(Friday sermon delivered on 2 July 2004 at International Centre, Mississauga, Canada. Published in Al Fazl International 16 July 2004)
“Now I will mention some general matters. When separation takes place some people use the law of the land and have half of the property/house purchased with the wife’s money registered in their name. May be they become rightful owners in the eyes of the law but in the sight of Allah the Exalted they are perpetrating a manifest sin. Allah the Exalted says that even if you have given heaps of wealth to your wife, do not take it back let alone rob the wife’s property and take possession of what is hers.”
(Friday sermon delivered on 10 November 2006 at Baitul Futuh, London. Published Al Fazl International 1 December 2006)
Explaining the significance of keeping righteousness in view when arranging marriages Huzoore Anwer (may Allah be pleased with him) said in one of his Friday sermons:
“Recently someone wrote to me that his matrimonial match could not be arranged, the Directorate of Rishta Nata in Pakistan did not cooperate with him. When I asked for a report it was found out that many matrimonial matches were suggested to him but were not liked for the reason that the young man said the match should be arranged on his conditions. His educational qualification is basic Matric, but his condition was that the young woman should be educated with a master’s degree and should be in employment. The woman should be earning and he wanted to be gifted a house at marriage as well as 100,000 to 200,000 in cash. He wanted his wife to support him and not only that, he did not want to be told to go out to work by his in-laws or the wife. He said it was up to him if and when he worked. A person like this can only be termed as having mental health issues. Rishta nata department should not pay attention to such proposals and such young men. I do not know why they kept sending him proposals, because if they have to deal with such people the rishta nata staff may themselves develop mental health issues.”
(Friday sermon delivered on 1 December 2006 at Baitul Futuh, London)