Truthfulness [Qawl e Sadeed]: Foundation of Stable Relationships

Elucidating the qualities of Ebaadur Rahman (servants of the Gracious God) with reference to marital matters, Huzoore Anwer (may Allah be his Helper) said on one occasion:

“The tenth distinct quality of the servants of the Gracious God is that they neither tell lies nor give false testimony. Falsehood plays a huge part in the decline and ruin of nations. Divine communities and servants of Allah the Exalted are those must aspire to attain moral and spiritual heights. They have been promised by Allah the Exalted that they will traverse stages of progress and go higher and higher. If falsehood penetrates among those on whom Allah the Exalted bestows His grace or among those who are promised the grace of Allah the Exalted, then they do not remain special people of Allah the Exalted. Thus, Ahmadis should employ 100% honesty in all their affairs and their testimonies. For example, in marital matters, during nikah, it is pledged that the bond of marriage will be based on qawl e sadeed (–the right word) and always the truth will be told; unambiguous truth which will be crystal clear with no vagueness. However, after the wedding the young woman speaks dishonestly to the young man and the young man speaks dishonestly to the young woman, both sides of in-laws speak dishonestly to each other and relationships are fractured and gradually finish. Marriages break up merely for egotistical reasons and selfish desires and where children are involved, they suffer greatly. I have drawn attention to this matter many times before. In order to honour the dues of Allah the Exalted and the dues of humankind it is essential for believers who include themselves in servants of the Gracious God to abhor every kind of falsehood.”

(Friday sermon delivered on 25 September 2009 at Baitul Futuh, London. Published in Al Fazl International 16 October 2009)

At another occasion Huzoore Anwer said:

“Just as I have already mentioned, the Quranic guidance [read] at the time of nikah should always be kept in mind. You must abide by righteousness, you must abide by the right word () and if you do so, then these problems will never arise. If you are taking something that is not rightfully yours, it is a lie and along with lying you are perpetrating (shirk–associating partners with God). The Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be on him) said if you make me reach wrong verdicts you fill your bellies with fire. If you are distanced from righteousness, you will certainly fall in the lap of . Engage in Istighfar and seek forgiveness and mercy from Allah. Always have fear of God.”

(Friday sermon delivered on 10 November 2006 at Baitul Futuh, London. Published in Al Fazl International 1 December 2006)